Deadbeat, mooching siblings. Waiting for Karma!

Any advice on what can be done about my deadbeat,  younger brother who is still sponging / mooching off our 87 yr old mother?   

 If you've read my much earlier posts you know that  my mother has some form of dementia and she now resides in an assisted living, aged care home. 

I am so happy for the care that she receives and for the loving staff.   It still breaks my heart that she can not live in her own home where this brother and my younger sister live.   They are supposed to pay money towards the $588.00 per fortnight fees  that  Mum pays out of her pension,  plus the Council rates and the house insurance.    Mum would easily be able to get $450.00 a week rent for it.     That then affects her pension,  plus I would be handling the taxes that she would have to pay.   More stress for me and it would all work out the same in the end!

Every cloud has a silver lining. 

I called in to the Council to check if they had been paid.      Well,  there is around $750.00 still owing which means she has lost her $180 or more pensioner rebate because they weren't paid by the due date.   I would say that my sister has paid but not the free loading brother.
   The last time we had a family conference to try to sort out their bludging on Mum, my brother said he would do time in jail over me........   I took that as a threat to kill me.

I am not stressed over the problems now as I used to be. In the big picture,  Mum will end up paying in the end when it will all come out of her estate after she passes.  I know it's not at all fair but there's ef all I can do about it,  without it costing me a fortune in legal fees.  

So that's my whinge for the day.   This story is really a lot longer but gets more boring.
My Mum is doing OK.   Her blood sugar readings are up and down and this is due to little treats shared by others and a few desserts.  At her age,  who really cares?  It makes her happy.

Now... I just have to try to find the 3 pairs of shoes she has missing from her room!
 

 

Lovely Qantas meals. And they ARE nice!

I am incredibly lucky.   I am also damn grateful for that luck.    Or is it fate?   

I don't mean the 'luck ' that wins you lotteries and raffles.  It is the luck that has enriched my life.   

 

I have  an intense interest in learning.  I feel that this is a result of my life circumstances not allowing higher education.   I  did get halfway through a Bachelor of Arts  in my 30's.   I once again allowed another person's needs/happiness to influence my judgement.  Selfish bastard! 

BUT..... I did prove to myself that I have a brain and  that I could learn.  I also found that I fitted in with the younger students,  no problems at all.   Male and female, although my ex did call me a lesbian because of these young friends!!! 

  It was during this time that I took my 8 year old son and ran away from home......  I begged my 15 year old daughter to leave with me.  She chose not to.   Her father allowed her so much freedom and she had access to a lot of money....why would she want to leave that?     She did eventually live with me for a  while.

Very, very old timbers and cobble stones, Ebletoft, Jutland, Denmark

  I am an avid reader and love the amazing internet with all that information at my fingertips.  Anything I want to know usually can be found.   This has saved us a lot of money in the past by learning our rights and what is acceptable practice.  

I love the blogs.    

  If I'm sewing, I get inspiration from the blogging sewists. Same with gardening, soap making, even a little cooking!!!   

  I read blogs written by the carers of Dementia sufferers.  My mother has early Dementia and I am so grateful for the care she has at the aged care home where she now has to live.

She could have  lived in her own home if my siblings who also live  there could have put themselves out a little and looked after her!       Now it is too late.   She has been diagnosed with Diabetes 1 and is having 4 insulin injections a day!  I just feel sick in the stomach at the thought.. The poor old lady.

She keeps asking about when she can go home.  I will have to write out for her all the reasons why she can't. 

I will take her out for a few hours between injections.  

I am lucky that I am multi-skilled and I do not mean this in a self praising manner. 

I would be the meekest person when it comes to talking about myself.
Give me a human or animal  rights issue or some form of injustice, and I am right there in your face!   BIG TIME!! 

I can write in my blog what I can't/won't talk about...

I never get bored because there is always something I can work with or plan.  I do have the very bad trait of not continuing with a few things I have learnt because I lose interest once I know how to do it!!!   Naughty....

More later...... want to go and sew!