Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Rest in Peace, Liza. A brutal man, 2 little children and a suicide = a tragic mess and tremendous sadness and anger.
I absolutely loathe men who hit women and children and animals. They are lower than shark's shit on the ocean floor.
I attended the funeral yesterday of my 19 year old little friend, Liza.
Many hearts were broken as we watched her children play around her coffin.
A beautiful white coffin with an exquisite, display of pink and white roses on top. A photograph of their very pretty Mummy sat in front of the flowers.
Liza had been punched and bullied over a few years by her low life of a partner.
I never knew this was happening until a few days ago! A lot of other people knew. Why didn't they do something about it? My son knew! She came to his place for refuge! I'm the type who stands up and defends the underdog and animals so were they going to be very embarrassed by my actions if they had told me? Do the police know? What can be done now that she's gone? Did her father and two brothers know? The useless weak gutted woman basher has not been seen since.
She has always been a troubled girl. When Liza was 4 , her mother decided life was too hard and too sad and this has had so much impact on her life.
Liza has two children. A beautiful little girl, 2/3 years old and a baby boy who will be 1 year old on the 25th of this month.
Two different fathers but Liza was not promiscuous. She just believed what they said!
The father of the little boy wanted custody of him. Did he bully and bash Liza until she gave in????
She had her Dad's car because the arsehole of a boyfriend had crashed hers, and drove to pick her son up for the day. The boyfriend refused. This tipped her over the edge.
Liza then drove about 15 kilometres to a creek near where it runs into the ocean, got the rope out of the car, tied it to the tree that grew in front of where her Dad's pro fishing boat used to be moored and where her 15 year old cousin hung herself about 6 years ago after taking 2 anti depressant pills a doctor had prescribed for her mild depression and hung herself.
So now... we have a large extended family grieving and most likely can't stop thinking that they did not do enough to help her. How many knew?
THERE ARE NO WINNERS HERE.
I just broke down sobbing when I saw the little girl who saw her baby brother arrive for the funeral.
She just hugged and kissed him and then automatically went to take over pushing the pram as she did when Mum was pushing it. Are these two now going to be separated for life? I don't think so as there are aunts and female cousins and grand mothers who surely will do their best to keep them together or see as much of each other as possible.
There is a lot more to the story of Liza's life but it is not mine to tell.
Please... if you know someone is hurting.... step in and help.
If you ask them how they are, they will usually say that they are fine. It's a matter of keeping alert to little signs and sometimes taking over. Mother's of little ones suffer sleep deprivation and sometimes lack of social interaction. This can be a killer. Even offering 1 hours break will help.
I'm sorry for the mistakes and disjointed writing. It's not easy through a fog of sadness and anger with many tears falling.
Take care and take care of each other.... please.